#np: How to Love- Lil wayne
🙂 So it’s the Season of Love (lool) Did I see all the guys in the house frown? Oh yeah. Never mind you all, it would be all good, and over soon. GOD would provide money for you to buy that “special” gift and to pull off that “special” treat for that special one
Yeah underline the word “Special” after reading this post from our guest writer @femiry (*whispers* @d ladies dat’s his twitter handle 😉 ) you should understand what I mean 🙂
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Many guys have expressed their concerns about how to develop a good relationship with a girl. In many ways – and as a very general statement – girls seem to have more intuitive skills when it comes to relating. The male is often accused of being insensitive and non-caring, of failing to notice and of being self-absorbed.
While we don’t wish to endorse totally such a blanket generalization, we can understand the concerns. Men behaving badly can give a believable general impression that only the physical side of the relationship is important to them. In a recent football match, one newspaper reported that two supporters had thrown their girl-friends away to concentrate with watching the games! lool… Such extreme actions make the myth of the unromantic male that much more believable.
If there’s one non-sexual compliant that we hear more often than any other from girls about their boyfriends it’s that they aren’t romantic. In other words, girls are expecting a certain kind of behaviour, and are disappointed when it doesn’t happen. Of course, some boys can go over the top and shower their loved ones with flowers, gifts, chocolates and the rest. That’s not what girls are asking for either.
So what do Girls Really Want?
Some times it’s really confusing, isn’t it? Your get jumbled signals and mixed reactions. I remember one boy coming up to my mum totally puzzled: ‘I went to see my girl-friend and when I got there she complained about me not getting her flowers. So next time I brought some flowers and she complained that I was just trying to make up for the other day.
Another perplexed suitor complained that his girl-friend told him that sex was all boys ever thought about. Not long after she was complaining about him not touching her enough. For the male mind some of these reactions can be stranger. Behind them there is the truth that what girls really want is for them to be appreciated for what they are as a whole and complete people. If a girl is just a collection of sexual objects then she’ll recognize that she is not being appreciated for who she really is.
A couple of comments from the girls’ side: “I keep on catching him looking at my curves!” “He keeps on saying how beautiful I am but I want him to like me because of my personality too”.
In building a relationship, you must go beyond the physical appearance. We all are not what we look like on the outside. Your physical desire may make the visual appearance of a girl the most important factor in your mind. But remember you are not trying to love a doll or a statue but a complex human being. Physical beauty is only one aspect. What about personality, a sense of humour, intelligence, skill, abilities, honesty, morals, spiritual commitment, education and all other that make us what we are?
Ending the Confusion
Take the boy who was confused when told all he thought about was sex and when told off for not touching. What the girl is trying to say is that she wants affection to be expressed, it is more than just a sexual way. Love and admiration can be shown in light caresses of the hands and face just as much as touching areas normally considered to be ‘sexual’.
And the boyfriend who can’t get it right whether to bring flowers or not may be showing an attitude not appreciated by his girlfriend. You can’t expect to come along with a bouquet of flowers and think that gifts make everything right. You are not trying to buy love or affection either, or to ‘atone’ for some wrong by bribery!
You need to be more sensitive to feelings and perceptions. A truly deep relationship is based on mutual understanding & trust. That takes time, and if all you’re concerned about is to satisfy your physical senses, then you will not give an opportunity for a deeper and more meaningful relationship.
So since this month is a Season of Love; Ladies tell us/Show us how to love you better; Tell us what you want from your boyfriend or lover? Also bro(s) how do u think we get it all wrong with our ladies ?
SpokesMan #BoyFriend Association reporting for Alariwo
Even our Friend Jackie Chan needs a help on this one…lool